The other day I was researching gynecologists in Portland when I came across this:
I’m sure this is legit and totally makes sense. Right? Right?!
“The primary technique, gentle inter-vaginal massage…” That was enough.
I sent this picture to my sister, who quickly replied:
And I was glad.
Because it meant I was right.
My sister is part of my humor tribe.
How to Find Your Tribe
I’ve found my tribe and then lost them again.
I’ve found my tribe and then left them behind.
I’ve found my tribe and been left behind.
I think a lot about finding my tribe because I’ve often felt outside of any tribe. Now I know that my tribe is a little twisted. Kind people with strange senses of humor. Adventurers. People who quit their jobs to travel. Weirdos with no agenda.
People who laugh at inter-vaginal massage.
I love them.
You find your tribe by being 100% yourself. You don’t fake it. I hesitated to post this because I wondered if “inter-vaginal massage” was something I shouldn’t be laughing about. But it’s something I find funny. So I own that.
You find your tribe by recognizing the tribe you already have. You honor that tribe.
You search for other tribes, if you want them.
You get out in the cold, crazy world and you do what you truly want to do. You don’t have to know where you’re going. Just start.
Soon you’ll be led to where you were always meant to go – whether you already knew what that looked like, or not.
Be so real they can’t not see you. I’ve spent too long being nice. Pretending in order to make everyone like me. But my tribe doesn’t care for pretending. They love me for my quirks, for being real.
They’ll love you too.
What to Do Once You’ve Found Your Tribe
I don’t want to surround myself with people who take inter-vaginal massage too seriously.
Maybe that’s just me.
But once I’ve found those people, I hang on to them.
Once you’ve found your tribe, make time for them. Tend to those relationships. It’s easy to get comfortable and complacent. But a tribe requires work and care. Almost anything good in life requires work and care.
Don’t be afraid of work and care.
And yes, it’s important to step outside of your comfort zone. To consider new viewpoints. To hang with people who aren’t in your tribe. I’ve learned a lot from doing this too.
Expand the definition your tribe. Don’t make your tribe a clique. Don’t be an asshole.
Do call your best friend and tell her you love her.
Let me know how it goes.